January 20, 2013

Hachiko: A Dog’s Story

 

Hachiko, the legendary Japanese akita, proves that there is nothing more loyal than mans best friend in this modern retelling of a cherished true story.

It all begins when a college professor adopts an abandoned dog named Hachiko.

The two form such a strong bond that Hachiko walks with the professor to the train station each morning and returns to the station each evening to walk the professor home again. The routine continues until one day the professor does not return to the train station.

Hachiko, however, does not give up. He returns to the same train station at the same time, faithfully waiting for his owner to return.

Hachiko does this for more than nine years, until his own death.

This heartwarming tale that is already the stuff of legend in Japan is finally making its way to America by way of prominent director Lasse Hallström.

With an equally capable cast, the experience of Hachikos unending loyalty is certain to stay with you. Hachikos story is one of love, unwavering devotion, and the resounding impact one dogs affection can make.

Negative People - How To Deal With Them

Being negative is associated with “downward” thoughts, emotions, feelings, etc. A person is “negative” if they are angry, or “negative”because they are not happy for you, or “negative” because they do not accept your lifestyle, or “negative” because they are always bitter.

Remember, most of the time, the attacks and criticisms of others have much more to do with them and how they are feeling - than with us.

It must be understood that because we live in a dualistic world, both negative and positive will exist. The key thing is to learn to live in the balance of both the positive and negative.

By reading this post, it means you are possibly surrounded by negative thinkers that somehow bring you down. Yes, I can agree negative people can be absolutely draining(!), especially when you are trying to be positive or calm all the time. Negative situations may happen, and it takes you out of the positive bubble. BUT, one thing you have to remember is that only YOU have control over yourself - not others.

Self improvement belongs to you, so here are a few tips on ‘How To Protect yourself & Accept Negative People’:

How to Deal with Negative People

  • In your own meditation practice, visualize surrounding your entire body with a white-light outline. First it starts with imagination, and after awhile you will begin to see your own protective lining. Practice this everyday with intense visualization and this will help protect you from negative people, their thoughts, and threats to your own life.
  • Recite a healing mantra or prayer. It helps create healing energy and protection.
  • Remind yourself that you cannot change people. Accept them for who they are.
  • Be centered and calm, and sometimes those that are negative will become less negative.
  • Understand that some people have a HABIT of being negative.
  • Surround yourself with good company.
  • Increase your own personal awareness that you are neither affected by the positive and negative.
  • Know your soul, and negative people cannot harm you.

My Best Friend: Marley

By John Grogan

 

A dog has no use for fancy cars or big homes or designer clothes. Status symbols mean nothing to him.

A waterlogged stick will do just fine.

A dog judges others not by their colour or creed or class but by who they are inside.

A dog doesn’t care if you are rich or poor, educated or illiterate, clever or dull. Give him your heart and he will give you his.

It was really quite simple, and yet we humans, so much wiser and more sophisticated, have always had trouble figuring out what really counts and what does not.

As I wrote that farewell column to Marley, I realized it was all right there in front of us, if only we opened our eyes.

Sometimes it took a dog with bad breath, worse manners, and pure intentions to help us see.

 

John Grogan - “Marley & Me”

What To Do When The Going Gets Rough

The 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud lady, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock, with her hair fashionably coifed and makeup perfectly applied, even though she is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today.

Her husband of 70 recently passed away, making the move necessary.

After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready. As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on her window. “I love it,” she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.

“Mrs. Jones, you haven’t seen the room….Just wait.” “That doesn’t have anything to do with it,” she replied. “Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn’t depend on how the furniture is arranged…it’s how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it…”It’s a decision I make every morning I wake up. I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do. Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I’ll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I’ve stored away…just for this time in my life. Old age is like a bank account…you withdraw from what you’ve put in. So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories.

Thank you for your part in filling my Memory bank. I am still depositing.”

Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred.

2. Free your mind from worries.

3. Live simply.

4. Give more.

5. Expect less.

No one can go back and make a brand new start. Anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.

God didn’t promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, sun without rain, but He did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears, and light for the way.

Disappointments are like road bumps. They slow you down a bit but you enjoy the smooth road afterwards. Don’t stay on the bumps too long. Move on! When you feel down because you didn’t get what you want, just sit tight and be happy, because God has thought of something better to give you.

When something happens to you, good or bad, consider what it means. There’s a purpose to life’s events, to teach you how to laugh more or not to cry too hard.

 

 

Sowing The Seeds Of Confidence

By GALTIME

I was surprised to learn recently there is a crisis in confidence running amok in women these days. Many are lacking the confidence to step up, speak up, or take credit for a job well done. At first the idea seemed foreign, but then I started looking around at the women in my life and I realized that yes, most of my friends and associates deal with the fact that they lack the confidence to step out and into living their lives fully.

Rank your confidence right now, with 10 being highly confident (you speak your mind, offer opinions when necessary, make decisions quickly without a lot of second guessing). And zero being low or no confidence (you keep your thoughts and comments to yourself, believing no one wants to hear them, and you are indecisive, unable to make a decision without asking at least three people their opinion, etc.).

You were born with two very specific lifelong accounts that your actions, decisions, and experiences make deposits into and withdrawals from. Your first holds your integrity and the second, your confidence. If your decisions are supportive of your integrity, then your account balance grows—if not, a withdrawal occurs. To make a deposit into your integrity bank account, you need to restore your integrity, which takes a lot of time, and a lot of work. Likewise, your actions and decisions affect your confidence, which is also affected by your reactions to how others respond to your decisions.

How you respond to decisions under normal circumstances and during times of crisis can be completely different. Your confidence allows your decisions in times of crisis to be similar to under normal circumstances. The more confident you are, the better decisions you will make when under a high level of stress.

Remember, your interpretation of stress and definition of crisis can and will be completely redefined based on your experiences. So what you consider to be a crisis may not be considered even remotely stressful to another.

It’s important understand the true meaning and impact stress can have on you and your ability to make effective decisions. Most people lump stress all into one big ball. But for you to truly be confident in your life, you need to understand the difference between internal and external stress.

Here are three easy actions for you to take today to begin improving your confidence and get not only what you deserve in life, but what you desire.

Action 1: Identify the emotion first triggered when you are in a heightened stress situation.
As an example, imagine you are in the office and someone else takes credit for a job you completed. What did you emotionally feel? Was it powerlessness? Grief? Anger? Discouragement? Whatever it is, just accept it. Don’t judge yourself for feeling it. That’s what we do as humans—we feel—so go ahead and feel the emotion being triggered. By feeling the emotion, your self-confidence is immediately increased due to having newfound, empowering knowledge.

Action 2: Step up your emotion.
If you are feeling angry, look to raise your emotion to discouragement. If you are feeling discouragement, look to raise your emotion to frustration. If you are feeling insecure, look to raise your emotion to jealousy. The key is to raise your emotion which will bring new perspective on the situation. With a new perspective you are going to increase your confidence both regarding the situation at hand, and in general.

Action 3: Execute!
This action is twofold. First, execute the lower emotion and continue raising your emotion to a higher level until you’re back to feeling positive. Second, take the step(s) necessary to act on your newly found confidence; to resolve the situation triggering your stress. Back to our example of someone else taking the credit for your job well done, an action might be to approach the person who took the credit and congratulate her on her success while making sure to give yourself a pat on the back for taking the high road.

Confidence breeds confidence, and with each step you take, your confidence grows greater.

To your success!

 

Source: http://www.positivelypositive.com/2011/12/04/sowing-the-seeds-of-confidence-blog/

What If Your Heart Is Right?

BY SANDI RICHARD

Should I Do It?

“Well honey, I think you’ll just have to!”

I will never forget Lois Hole’s words to me. I was about to dive off the bridge called comfy and do what I knew my heart was telling me to do.

In order to move forward in our business, Ron and I would need to secure everything we owned with the bank. With six kids still at home, this was a big decision, to put it lightly. Leaving the familiar was causing me to second-guess everything. I was scared stiff. Was it the right decision? Was my heart right?

I laid out all the years’ worth of work I had done in front of Lois and asked, “Should I do it?” After listening carefully to how we had prepared for our big leap, and meticulously reviewing all the materials, her answer was poignant and simple, “Well honey, I think you’ll just have to!” That was it.

Lois was around 70 at the time. She was the chancellor of the local university, had become Governor-General, and was a multi-millionaire. She donated her time and money to the arts and engaging kids in reading. She was down-to-earth and respected by all. Oh yes… did I mention she began her business selling potatoes on the side of the road at age 40?

Her book I’ll Never Marry a Farmer is a lesson about what to do when your heart just knows something is right. Her stories and anecdotes about gardening and life’s lessons inspire! All Lois Hole knew was that selling potatoes on the side of the road made her happy. She loved growing things and she loved people. By listening to her heart instead of doing what was expected, she grew a seasonal potato-selling business into one of the largest and most successful greenhouse operations in North America.

With my own success as a meal-planner, I discovered that it was OK to be scared stiff. If we all haphazardly followed our heart without being prepared, most businesses would flat-out fail. Some of the best lifelong decisions will come by accepting that healthy fear is part of listening to your heart. They can (and do) co-exist.

You might find that following your heart allows you to think more clearly and work harder than before because your body and mind seem in sync. When you are ready to jump off your comfy bridge, you may be surprised how a busy, successful mentor will give up their time to help, support, and advise you. I know that Lois’s words of wisdom will live in my heart forever!

 

Source: http://www.positivelypositive.com/2011/12/05/what-if-your-heart-is-right-blog/

 

 

She Has Lived — An Incredible Obituary

By Heather Callaghan

Every once in awhile your eyes scan the papers in boredom only to find a remarkable gem. One that should be shared far and wide, but might remain yesterday’s news. This could be said for one of the bravest, most adventurous women who passed away this summer at the age of 91.

She could have been your neighbor; she could have been the old lady who needed help carrying her groceries, but we were too busy on our way to nowhere important. It isn’t every day you see an obituary like this . . . .

In ancient Rome, it was a disgrace to simply say that someone died. They had all kinds of eloquent ways to say that someone departed from this world. The main Latin term was “vixit” and it meant “he (she, it) has lived” or “he lived.” People often knew it meant the person had died, but Latin terminology bestowed honor to the dead, by acknowledging all the living years right in the wording.

All American protesters today are indeed taking great risks with their lives. The majority acts like these protesters are crazy and should stay home because they know they might be beaten to bloody pulp, as if that’s ample reason for everyone to back down and let despicable behavior carry on.

The spirited woman below knew the RISK. She has lived.

Louisa M. T. June 29, 1920 - July 31, 2011 OKLAHOMA CITY

Thoreau wrote that most people lead lives of quiet desperation. Louisa T. was definitely an exception.

Louisa Maria Regina Cras T. was born June 29, 1920 in Schoten, Belgium, a rural community east of Antwerp. She was raised on a farm with seven sisters, three brothers, and her mother and father.

Louisa’s closest friend throughout her life was her sister, Julia. Although separated by the Atlantic ocean since World War II, a childhood bond was established between them that never diminished.

On special occasions when Julia and her husband visited Louisa, our family spent many evenings watching two women transform themselves into two young girls as they sang songs learned as school girls or as they both rolled on the floor holding their sides and laughing hysterically at some silly story which was understood only by the two of them in a special way.

Louisa attended Catholic schools until the age of fourteen. At that age, it was customary for most students to go to work at factories in Antwerp. Louisa worked at a cookie factory until the age of twenty-one.

It was at this time that her life was drastically changed by World War II.

Friends of Louisa knew her to be jolly, extremely energetic, and overflowing with an almost childlike innocence. Knowing this, it is hard to imagine she experienced the stark realities of war that are unknown to most of us. To have experienced the cruelty of war and still remain such a joyful person was a testament to the strength of her character.

During the German occupation in 1941, Louisa, Julia, and several other girls were transported to work in a munitions factory in Germany. During the thirteen months spent there, Louisa came face to face with a reality a farm girl from Belgium could not have been prepared for.

When the girls arrived at the work camp, they were treated fairly and the food was adequate. Later, the food was stretched to a point where long hours demanded by the Germans could not be sustained.

Finally, near the point of total exhaustion, the young girls decided to strike. To the overworked and exhausted girls, a strike seemed to be a rational way to solve the problem. To the German officer who soon arrived with a truckload of armed soldiers, a strike was something altogether different from rational.

He explained to the camp of more than five-hundred workers that if they did not resume their duties within ten minutes, they would begin executions by firing squad. It took only a matter of minutes for most of the workers to file back to work. All that remained was a group of 10 young Belgian girls which included Louisa and Julia.

Being totally unprepared for the harsh new truth of the “Fatherland,” the girls decided it was only right and fair to continue the strike. When the German officer learned of this, he exploded and ordered all ten girls to be placed in front of a wall for execution.

The civilian factory manager pleaded with the girls to give up the strike. All ten remained firm and did not move from the wall. The manager then conferred with the German officer. After a few minutes, the officer ordered ten armed soldiers out of the truck and directed them to within a few paces of the girls.

In a very loud and resonant voice, he told the girls this was their last chance. If they did not return to work by the count of ten, they would be shot. The count began rapidly at first: Ein, Zwei, Drei. Then the pace began to slow to what seemed minutes between each count. The girls were now beginning to feel panic, realizing they were close to their last moment on earth.

Finally, the count reached nine and then a long pause that seemed like an eternity. The next sound Louisa heard was “the loudest screaming and hollering she had ever heard.” It was the German officer shouting words Louisa could not altogether understand, although she seemed to think he was commenting on the impossible situation of confronting ten obstinate Belgian farm girls who had yet to learn the ways of the “Fatherland.”

When Louisa told this story, she basically laughed it off, saying “when you’re young, things don’t seem so drastic.” As it turned out, the ten girls were taken away from the camp and moved to a prison in nearby Austria for thirty days. When they were returned to the work camp, the food allocation had been increased to former levels and they received a hero’s welcome from the other girls.

Within four years, the war ended, and Louisa had fallen in love and married a handsome American soldier named Melvin T. Since she was not able to accompany him to America, she made the trip by herself while speaking little English and fully expecting to be attacked by wild Indians as soon as she entered Oklahoma. Somehow escaping these pitfalls, she was reunited with Melvin, and they settled in Chandler, OK.

Louisa also became an instant mother to 4year-old Melvin Clark T., whose birth mother had passed away when Melvin was a baby. Seven years later she gave birth to her only daughter, Regina. Louisa lost Melvin Sr. to cancer in 1967. For the remaining forty-four years of her life, she remained as in love with him as the first day they met. She was preceded in death by all of her immediate Belgian family.

She is survived by her son, Melvin Clark T. and wife Jeannie; her daughter, Regina E. and husband Gary; and grandchildren, Frank T., Aaron T., Brian T., Belinda G., Stephen E.; and 13 great-grandchildren.

Louisa lived alone from 1971 until 2005. During that time, she approached each day with vigor and an unwavering desire to help her family in any way possible. She remained as steadfast in her love and devotion to family as the young girl at the wall.

 

Source: http://www.activistpost.com/2011/12/she-has-lived-incredible-obituary.html

It’s All In The Details. Or Is It?

BY ALISSA FINERMAN

“A little perspective, like a little humor, goes a long way.”—Allen Klein

“If you go on a hike and only focus on the details, such as the rocks on the path, you will miss the beautiful view every single time. Similarly, if you only look out at the view and neglect the rocks, you could twist your ankle. Successful people balance the two and are able to keep the details in perspective while staying mindful of the bigger picture.”—Alissa Finerman

When I wrote my first book, Living in Your Top 1%, I was obsessed with the details in the final stages even though I was not concerned with them when I first started writing the book. Why? One typo or unfinished chapter in the first draft of a two-year book project really doesn’t matter. However, a typo when the book is going to print is major. It’s the same detail, a simple typo, but has very different implications when considered in line with the bigger picture of publishing a book. One is a detail that can be overlooked initially and one is a detail that will detract from the project. The more important issue is how we view details in our life and keep them in perspective relative to the bigger picture.

If you go on a hike and only focus on the details, such as the rocks on the path, you will miss the beautiful view every single time. Similarly, if you only look out at the view and neglect the rocks/details, you could twist your ankle. Successful people balance the two and are able to keep the details in perspective while staying mindful of the bigger picture. We can apply this same principle to all areas of our life. Consider the following three examples:

You pay your rent or mortgage late.

If you’ve never missed a payment before, you most likely will be subject to a late fee and it’s not the end of the world. However, if you’ve missed the last four payments, then the detail of missing another payment may have much more serious implications. This detail is obviously critical within the bigger picture of keeping your home.

A person is disrespectful to you.

If the person serves you coffee at your local coffee spot, you can choose to overlook the incident or get your coffee elsewhere. However, if you are seriously dating this person then it’s an important detail in line with the bigger picture of creating a life together that you will hopefully want to address. The single detail of being rude/disrespectful (although never desirable) has different implications depending on the situation.

You don’t like the seat you are assigned on a flight from LAX to NYC.

Your preference is to have an aisle seat in an exit row with more leg room but instead get stuck with a middle seat. If you’re healthy, this is undesirable but not the biggest deal. However, if you just had knee surgery and need to keep your knee extended or else you will be in extreme pain, the seat selection is an important detail. Again, a simple detail is more or less important depending on the situation.

How we view details is a dynamic process. It’s difficult to draw a conclusion from a single detail without understanding what it means within the context of the bigger picture. Some details really make a difference in your life and others take more energy to address than they’re worth. Are you you treating every “detail” like a missed mortgage payment or keeping it in perspective?

TOP 1% BOTTOM LINE: Yes, details are important but not every one is the most important. The key is to understand the bigger picture and to quickly assess how and if the details matter within that context. Knowing which details to overlook and which to focus on will depend on your values, goals, and how you want to invest your energy. As you move into the new year, take a moment and consider where in your life you could view the details differently to gain a Positively Positive perspective.

 

Source: http://www.positivelypositive.com/2011/12/12/it%E2%80%99s-all-in-the-details-or-is-it/

The Anatomy Of Hope

BY GISELLE FERNANDEZ

Having hope is a personal decision, a bold conviction—a choice.

Hope is something worth holding onto with the same conviction you would a child to keep her from being swept into a rushing river. A conviction that comes from gut purpose, and a clear understanding of what drives hope in you.

We so often look outside ourselves, desperate for inspiration—a sign, a miracle. Finding hope is an inside job. When you feel lost and hopeless, rather than focus on the outside crisis—zoom in.

Transform the moment by zooming off of you and into what drives the hope within you. And that can be found in who, and what, you love and cherish deeply. This will serve to refocus and fuel your dream, and to fan that dying flame of hope into a roaring fire once more.

The equation for conquering hopelessness is:

Hope = Active decision

Victor Frankel wrote about the power of love and purpose as a common denominator for many who would survive the Nazi death camps. Their all-consuming passion, love, and a drive to survive—to fulfill their destiny—filled them with an unquenchable desire to live. And they did.

To the hopeless:

You are not alone. Zoom in. Toughen up. Make the bold, brave decision to dig in and believe in your destiny.

Eleanor Roosevelt said, with trademark grit, “When you think you’re at the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on.

How does one muster that cry for courage? to find the juice to keep on daring to dream the dream? to believe with unwavering faith that your reinvention is at hand? your second chance possible? That you will not just get through—that you will triumph.

The answer resides within you, derived from everything you hold dear. It defines you. Grasp this poetry of the soul, and you will find the hope you need to dream your biggest dream and never let go—even in the darkest hour. In fact, it is in the depths of despair that hope offers the greatest opportunity to feel her fire. Opening you up to who you really are, and what fuels the core essence of your being.

Having hope is an active, decisive mindset etched into every single moment. No matter the haze and fog that clouds your vision, hope’s laser cuts through, never losing sight of her shimmering stars.

Hope is your choice over fear. A declaration to believe in the dream and silence the doomsayers. It’s a battle for the possible, a noble duel of the spirit to slay the dragons of despair that confront you.

Take a warrior’s stand. Make a choice to build your life on a grand and royal foundation. A foundation of hope, and the belief that you will fulfill your destiny—all you are born to be. Because you choose to empower that belief with every decision, every second of every day. Where our greatest opportunity for happiness is realized.

Like hope, joy is also a decision. A decision to live out loud and be who we are in all our unique expression.

Who we really are is based on values we choose to live by, such as believing in the possible, believing in the goodness of others, and believing in the power of love.

When we make the decision to passionately pursue our greatest purpose, we become the hope in our lives and manifest her greatest dreams, because we refuse to consider any other possibility.

As Henry James put it, “Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact.”

The light energy and phenomenal force of hope encircles our being, heightens our energy, and draws near the positively positive.

Everyday Gratitude: Triumph Of Life by Xian Horn

My whole life I have been called a happy person. People ask me how I stay positive, even joyful. While I think I’m a natural optimist, I believe all joy is an extension of gratitude. If we can find something to be thankful for, no matter what’s going on, no matter how small, we can grasp the coattails of joy.

Last year, a week before Thanksgiving, my best friend lost her father to Prostate cancer. Jonathan Waite was like a second father to me. I saw him three days before he died. He was frail, dazed, and so joyful. His eyes were fixed dreamily on the ceiling and his heart on his many paintings. It amazed me that through his deep physical pain, he cracked jokes and, in a childlike way, seemed genuinely happy.

While I will always miss him, I think of the impactful life he had as teacher, father, loyal husband and brilliant artist, and cry tears from the beauty of a life well-lived. One of his greatest works of art was his daughter, for whom I will always be grateful. Jon’s piece pictured above is called “Triumph of Painting.” If I were ever to write his story, I would call it simply, “Triumph of Life.”

Not long after Jonathan, my grandmother passed. Through my heartbreak, I focused my mind on her amazing story and 90 years. By age 30, T.S. Yang had survived three wars. Doctors told her she would never have children. She had five. After the funeral, my cousin revealed she was pregnant.

Sometimes we have have to fight for our joy. Being Positively Positive does not mean never having problems or never facing death, it means seeking out the blessings or opportunities we can find within disappointment, anger, sadness—and transforming it. Not to deny the pain, but to add joy to it. I have seen the ways in which gratitude gives us power over darkness and difficulty. I’ve seen the way gratitude enables the angels.

Being able to say “thank you” through tears, through Thanksgiving every single day—not only when the turkey and stuffing is out. Seeking out Thanksgiving every day through loss, a bad day at work, a parking ticket. Like Jon’s little ladder to the sky (above), climbing over any disappointment into gratitude for the pillow under your head. Climbing and living, remembering to focus on every breath as a gift, not a given.

Right now, I am thankful for everything, all that I take for granted, and for all of you. I’m Xian Horn and I’m Positively Positive too!

[Xian Horn is a joyful half-Asian woman with Cerebral Palsy, serving as writer, mentor, and positivity activist. ]

 

Source: http://www.positivelypositive.com/2011/11/24/everyday-gratitude-triumph-of-life-blog/